I speak to approximately 50 to 75 clients a week during psychic phone, chat or video readings. Many times my client will ask me this question. Of course, not every situation is the same, but most are similar. So let us go over when to block or not?
There is only one good reason to block someone and that is because you never want to have any future communication. Otherwise, it is not a good idea to block people. If you want to shift the dynamic of the relationship it is really important to communicate that to the person. For instance, I often hear this, "I am always the one that is texting and calling and if I block him/her they will get the message and make more effort because they miss me". That is changing the dynamic. Your love interest likely feels that you like to be the person that initiates the communication and because you may not have complained about it with a conviction that they just assume you are happy. Set this up differently, be specific and tell them that you feel that you want him/her to take more initiative themselves so that you feel appreciated.
I also hear people often say, "I am not going to text or call him/her for a few days and see what they do". Again, this may be construed as ignoring your person leaving them feeling confused and rejected, which I doubt is your intended goal. You have to take a hard look at your person. Are they self-centered or lazy? They may not be compatible with you if they are not loving and attentive to the level that you need.
At times, I psychically can see that there is a reason that their person is not responding in kind due to some behavior that my client has exhibited. Take a good look at yourself and inventory your communication style. Are you an enjoyable person to interact with? Are you asking too much of your person? Is it possible that you may have offended your person without realizing it? Sometimes our sense of humor or sarcasm can trigger other people and we don't even know it. So take the time to dig a little deeper at your behavior.
I always say that ignoring a person is torture. Psychologically solitary confinement or ignoring and isolating people is highly damaging and can cause lasting negativity, it creates a lack of trust and the feeling that you are not good enough. So try not to block or ignore anyone that you care about.
The most effective way to succeed in your relationships is to be direct and honest about how you feel your person relates to you. Most of the time, we assume too much. We assume the person has the same thought process as we do and it is just not true. Talk openly about your expectations for communicating with each other. It is okay to set up a communication schedule. Both of you can agree on a small routine like I will text you in the morning or the afternoon and you text me after dinner or whatever works best. Early on in my relationship I was texting/calling my boyfriend (who is now my husband) during the day when he was at work. I assumed because he owned his own business that he could easily talk to me when I contacted him. After a few months of him being quite brash and very dismissive, I was truly convinced that he was not interested in me and maybe even mad at me and wanted to break up. Finally, he said that he hated that I contacted him when he was at work and hated to talk on the phone. He asked that we talk after work and from then on that is what we do. If I do contact him during the day, he knows that it is really important and always responds.
So knowing where you both stand is reassuring and you don't have to think the worst. Being open and direct with how you like to communicate moves things along really nicely too. Good luck my friend and if you have deeper questions about your relationship you can Reserve a Reading today and I will give you a great reading.
Many Blessings,
Jules